It has been so tempting to me to orient to 2025 now, last week, probably later today, as I/we often do when the present moment is like a claw at the heart.
The grass being greener and all.
The way in which I/we might focus on hope and faith that the future moment will help us to escape the present one.
And its actually a truly necessary and intelligent adaptive response to stress, that our brains pivot us to distraction for a moment to pendulate to something better. Its still only a temporary support that sometimes leads to distraction addiction.... I know it well.
But, my personal/soul work at this time, as we race towards the end of this calendar year. is to keep coming back to now.
To committing myself to feel the truth and the heart of this lived year and to tidy up and complete, and do it with moments of pause and rest so that I can integrate and go into this next year not dragging the old with the new.
I am so exquisitely aware to my patterns around mattering, feeling special, being successful, able to financially stand on my own two feet ........ and when I am in my drama and hopelessness, my need for external validation from the world that I can exist, and my dreams, my gifts, my offerings are valuable and needed. That I am an important part of.
This is never an outsourced job. Reassurance and support are needed, especially if we did not get of lot of mirroring of that in our early childhood experiences AND it will never truly feed the hungry ghost of self worth and self value. That must be given with love, over and over, again by me to me and you to you, to our overwhelmed and frightened parts.
These final months and possibly this whole bloody year has seen many many moments of me in a hot mess (thanks menopause), I bow to the intelligence of this too.
There has been racing panic heartbeats leaping inside my chest, bursts of leaky and misdirected anger, jealousy and resentment and so so much overwhelm and what I wanted to share with you, as a gift of one human hot mess to another is what has been getting me through this time.
These are embodiment tools, somatic practices of deeply self- loving and humanizing our truth of being human and whole.. and that is what I believe to be what we need more and more of, and I want to gift to you, as we are propelled into whatever is to come next.
Slow down for 5 fucking minutes and find ground. Find the earth, find the tree, the river, the bird, the grass, the wind, the rain and the sun. Find the love and hope in nature, find her fullness, her everything that is here now, "the way". For 5 minutes x multiple times a day, let yourself see & hear Her and possibly be seen and heard by Her.
Breathe and make sound. When we slip into the activation zones of overwhelm and feeling out of control, our bodies and our organs contract (again there is such intelligence in this), our face goes flat and hard and we hold our breath. Breathe out my loves and make sound (it feels good and it will open the contraction... even just a little bit... it will let life slowly come in again). Hum to your heart, voo to your belly, howl to the sea, sing to the tree..... do it until there is a little more okayness and a little more okay to be hereness.
Move - move your body slowly or quickly... dance it out, roll it out, bounce, shake, tap, give a pause to the mind and get into your body. Discharge when you notice you are charged and scrambling for answers.
Lean in. Lean in to your feelings, they matter, they are valid. We often dismiss or gaslight or override our feelings, believing they will go - but they don't actually go anywhere... they just get layered over every other time you have dismissed yourself. Then we are reaffirming to those parts of us that are scared and overwhelmed that they are wrong or that they don't matter. And they do.
And this is the biggest one... lean into vulnerability. It is genuinely the most scary thing to do (it does feel like dying... and something might be). so not every human is worthy of your most sacred gift of pure vulnerability, but if you are lucky enough to have beautiful humans around you that care - you will only strengthen that by leaning in to that which has been held by shame..... let it be held by love and care instead. It has truly been my saviour.
As Brene Brown found out, allowing ourselves to be vulnerable (with trusted humans) is the medicine and antidote to shame and to bringing in a human collective that is more compassionate, more heart, more human focused than the industrial consumer and economic focused world that is trying so fucking hard to drive us into submission and separation.
If you are still hear reading this, thank you and I hope it helps, I hope it reminds you of what you value. This is definitely not a sparkly share of radical shifting into higher timelines (although I think that is happening one way or another regardless). But before we can get there, we have to learn what need here. We need to make peace with our present moment, we need to learn the language of our bodies and there infinite wisdom. We need to know how to ride this wild human biology.
The only way to stop the machine is to slow down and lean into the richness and the vulnerability of our collective messy and beautiful humanity.
Love from me and the Anima Mundi
xxxx
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